• Tori Owens

I Had A Fist Fight With My Late Twenties And It Almost Knocked Me Out

Late twenties have been kicking my ass worse than Pacquiao and Broner. However, if I had to compare it to any one fight....three words, THIS IS SPARTA!!!!

On a serious tip, as if the pressure to learn how to two-step wasn't enough, you're daunted with a list of things that can keep you up at night. You should have your career by now. You should be purchasing a home by now. What's your credit score? Your skin is changing. When are you getting married? The rent is due. Did you leave the stove on? Damn, I have to buy this AGAIN? You're two seconds away from getting on Tinder. Set the alarm. What the hell is self care? Friends become distant. Happiness. Best times of your life. Confusion. Consciousness. Am I doing enough? Whew! I'm sorry, where was I?

The pressure of it all can be overwhelming. My peace had been disrupted and I temporarily lost my sanity. Needless to say, I checked out from the world like it was a $2 motel. It was necessary. It was necessary for me and for my child.

I never thought I would end up a single mother, however upon enlightenment, I realized I spoke it upon myself without even knowing it. When I was a child, I always asked the universe for a child of my own. I just knew I had so much love to give, and that's all that mattered to me. On hindsight, I never asked for a husband or a solid family foundation to be attached to that baby. The same theory applies to everything in my life. I know this may sound cliché but, I just recently gained a deeper understanding of seeing the glass half full. Granted it took a week of no outside world communication and sending my kid to her dad's, nonetheless, I get it fully now.

As I'm approaching my 30's, I have the ability to look at things in a different light. I see all things as necessary whether I understand it or not. The real battle is knowing its necessary and still not throw the towel in. So, you kick and scream sometimes if need be. Let it all out. My mother always told me I had 24 hours to cry over spilled milk and after that, figure out a solution. Some things just need a bit more time now.

In retrospect, I can now admirably say I'm in the business of being more intentional and aware of what I speak of and for. My late twenties have me relishing in gratefulness right now. Im grateful for all that is for me....past, present , and future. Undoubtedly what you speak, will be fruitful. However, you must be equipped mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to receive it. Below are a few tips to help you get back in the ring with your late twenties. Remember , be intentional with everything you do.


1. Connect with a new group of individuals that cater to your new tastes and interests.

2. Find a creative outlet.

3. Find two new hobbies. One that supplements your current income and one that challenges you in a particular area you feel could be better about yourself.

4. Download an app or calendar and set daily reminders and eventually turn your tasks into real HABITS.

5. Indulge in self exploration. Mentally. Spiritually. Sexually. Explore every bit of you.

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