• Tori Owens

Social Outcast: Taking Your Vegan Toddler To Non-Vegan Birthday Parties


I’ve mentioned before the daily struggles of raising a vegan child when I, myself, have been eating the way society has taught us all our life , can be difficult. I’m one year in as a mother raising a vegan child and I must say I’m faced with new problems every step of the way. However, this particular first I encountered over the weekend has me even more worried than before. It even has me questioning my decision to raise her vegan. I was invited to my best friends birthday party the other day and it was kid friendly so of course Bailey and I slid through. I made sure she was fed prior to the party per usual before leaving the house. In my mind , it would be a smooth ride. Right ? Ummm, no. For the first time I saw my child in a new kid setting and it seemed as though she may have felt a bit outcasted. In all honesty, I didn’t know children could develop these emotions so early on. But hey, I’m winging this whole mom thing so I’m not mad about it. I won’t lie though. I’m a bit concerned now. It was cake time and all the kids lined up for their piece. My daughter however stood between my legs with this look of confusion as to why she wasn’t included. She looked to me as if she wanted an answer, that at the time I did not have. To get her mind off it, I gave her a plate of grilled zucchini and peppers. Even after she devoured it, she still looked at the other kids enjoying cake. What the hell do I do now? I didn’t want to make her feel as though she did something wrong and couldn’t get cake like the other kids. But I couldn’t help but feel like I was socially outcasting her. An overwhelming amount of guilt took over and all I could say is SHIT this Mom thing is hard AF! Or am I making it harder than it needs to be because I chose to raise her vegan in a non-vegan environment? When the night was over and she was tucked away, I sat in the dark and just let my mind run. By raising her vegan am I doing the right thing ? Should I not let her go to birthday parties anymore ? Am I taking away her childhood ? What about when she starts school? Should I just let her indulge in these things for parties only ? Gahhhh damnn. I couldn’t figure out the answer to any of my questions. Today , I woke up with a clear mind and a mission: How To Deal With A Vegan Child at Non-Vegan Birthday Parties This is what I’ve come up with. Now, by no means am I saying this is correct. What I am saying is , I’m going to compromise on some things without necessarily compromising my decision to raise her vegan. Here’s what I’ve come up with. When it’s time to take her to these type of events , I’m going to opt in to bringing items to a party that everyone can enjoy without compromising her food intake. You know that saying “Don’t show up empty handed to a party”? Well that’s what I’m planning to never do again. Now, when I’m invited to a kid friendly party I plan to take vegan items that parents and kids will enjoy so that Bailey can feel apart of the crowd. I’ve come across tons of vegan sweets that she loves and that I’m sure other kids will enjoy too. Donuts, cupcakes, and tiny treats to name a few. Not to mention , I’ve mastered vegan Mac and cheese and non -vegan eaters tell me they love it. Some don’t even notice the difference. Needless to say , never let other people make you doubt your decisions...in anything that you do for that matter. When faced with these type of situations , take a step back, reevaluate and come up with your own solution that meets at the corner of compromise. Their will be an updated blog on this soon to let you all know how this method goes. Stay tuned !